Some of us were unfortunate to encounter these individuals. If you never met any of these vultures, then count your lucky stars, but I did, and I think most people experience this and suffer in silence. I googled this topic to get some insights, and shockingly, there were just a few blog posts about this. My blog is not just about makeup and fun topics; we MUST also discuss topics that others wouldn't!
So, what is a hate recruiter? A hate recruiter is someone who hates you and influences others to also hate you. They will lie and manipulate, they will brainwash others into believing that you are a bad person. They will even make it look as though you are the one that hates them because as you learned what is happening and you try to tell others that this person is lying, it will then look as though you are the recruiter. What kinda person would do something like this, you ask? Sad/ miserable people that can only feel good by making others miserable. They feel joy in your pain, it's a win for them.
The choices they made in life led them to the unhappy path they are on, and the happiness of someone else makes them miserable because everyone should be as unhappy as them. They have no idea what this person might have had to endured to reach this happy place in their life, but they want to take it away.
And, because they have done this so many times, they are experts at this toxicity. They are so good that even the smartest person can be manipulated by them.
While googling this topic, I found this. “If you must hate people, hate them alone. Don’t recruit people to hate them with you. That’s Witchcraft!” This is what happens in witchcraft covens: A member brings the issue of someone that offended him/her and then proceed to solicit the others to join their hands and powers together to go against the person. Without any investigation to confirm the claims, they proceed to target the person. Am I gonna call it Witchcraft?? Well....Fuck it makes sense, right? That's what they do!
So, how do you protect yourself from these people? As a victim, learn to recognize the signs. Most times they pose as your friend, read my post about this here.
“A friend of my enemy is my enemy.” Wrong! That person may just be trying to stay neutral in a bad situation. The recruiter may be nice to them so why would they not be friends with him/ her? Just be observant of their behavior towards you and try to be friendly.
To prevent yourself from being recruited and getting entangled in their web, try doing these:
Don't believe what others tell you about someone. Get to know that person then draw your own conclusions. Isn't it unintelligent to just believe what you heard about someone without any proof? Yes, it's a lack of social intelligence. Social intelligence is the ability to remain unbiased until you have all the necessary information needed while someone is trying to convince you of something.
Don't inherit your friends' enemies. It's stupid to consider someone as your enemy just because your friend hates them. The reasons and situations that caused that bad relationship has nothing to do with you.
Don't be a bully. Ganging up with others to target someone is bullying. What, are you in high school? And if you are, STOP BULLYING! It wasn't acceptable then, and it is not acceptable now! Don't hate someone because they may be different from you, may have different opinions, different beliefs, or because of what someone told you about them.
Don't gossip! "Don’t invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouth”. If you have nothing good to say then say nothing. After you got the whole story and decided who's at fault, keep it to yourself.
Don't allow yourself to be used as a weapon to fight a battle that doesn't involve you. It doesn't concern you so sit down!
Adding more hate to an already bad situation does good for no one. The person experiencing this hostility may not be strong enough, because of past situations, personality, etc., to carry this burden. This may lead to depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. Think before you speak and act!
Disclaimer: This article is based on my experiences. It is not meant to promote stereotyping, pass judgment, or cause doubt on anyone's character. It is for reading purposes only and should not be used in any other way.